If you had an active father in your life growing up, that taught you something. If you grew up without an active father in your life, that also taught you something.
Being a Dad is NOT about being perfect, its about being present and playing a consistent, positive, active role in your child(ren)’s lives.
Below are a few tips to help you become better Dads.
TAKE ACCOUNTABILITYOwn up to your part in whatever caused the breakdown in the relationship between you and your child(ren).
IT WAS NEVER THEIR FAULT
Tell your child(ren) that none of this is their fault and that you love them.
PRESENCE vs. PRESENTSChildren love to receive presents, but what they really want and need is a consistent Dad. Stop trying to buy your child)ren’s love. Eventually they’ll see right though the facade.
PUT THE DAMN PHONE DOWN!
Spend quality time with your child(ren) without interruptions and distractions. How would you feel if someone ignored you to scroll on Instagram?
APOLOGIZE and STAND ON IT!Lose the fucking pride. Stop overthinking and just apologize. Stop thinking abut the coolest and slickest way to say it. The best way to express the apology is simoly to say..”I’m sorry”.
WORK ON YOU and FORGIVE YOURSELF!
You made mistakes, but now is the time to change. You were knocked down but got back up, now is the time to change! You made bad decisions in the past, but now is the time to change!
Thinking about therapy? Go!
Do you deserve better? Yes!
Was it your fault growing up? No!
It’s time to stop the negative talk about yourself and put the work into being the absolute best version of yourself you can be. When you do the work, you win. Your children win. And believe it or not, WE ALL WIN!